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  1. Deb2of9

    Is Paper Dead?

    Love it
  2. Deb2of9

    Prepping for the “Golden Years”

    Oh I also suggest supplies to make a ramp if needed so someone who can't use stairs easily can get up and down and I have added a portable hand dolly and a wheeled clothes basket so I don't have to carry loads. I even can pull the wheeled basket across the lawn to hang clothes.
  3. Deb2of9

    Prepping for the “Golden Years”

    You know looking at the list everyone has here made me think of something and not being prepared. Years ago my daughter ended up in a wheel chair for about 6 months. I don't think she has the wheel chair anymore, but could be wrong. She got it from the local Hospice store for a dollar, but was supposed to return it when done with it in case someone else needed it. From there she moved to a walker. I bought one of those nice wheeled walkers with the seat and a basket to carry stuff for her, with the understanding it went to me when she was done with it. About 4 years before that I bought a cane because my knee sometimes doesn't work right. Fast forward about 6 years. Walker is in the shed and who knows where the cane has disappeared to. I hadn't used it in 5 or 6 years. My knees and one hip are getting way worse. My chronic back pain has started to interfere with daily activities on a daily basis. I can no longer lift a lot or do a lot of the work I usually could. I have even given up kneeling at church because I just can't move and have severe pain if I Kneel more than about 5 or 10 minutes. ( Face it, I can't after sitting too long either. ) Well one day I had to reach to the other side of my bed for something. Instead of going around I knelt on the bed to allow me to reach across. When I went to stand up I could not put any weight on my left leg. For the next week, I could not go to work because I could not even stand unassisted. That first day, I was there alone. I couldn't find my cane and it wouldn't have done a lot of good because the bad him is on the opposite side so I needed support on both side. I could put no weight on the left and only partial weight on the right. I ended up using two walking sticks to hop around the house until my daughter was able to go to the shed to dig out the walker. Not only would I have not been able to stand to dig through the shed, I needed to get down 5 steps to even get out of the house. I bought another cane that is one of those ones with a wider base than a normal cane ( but not a quad cane,) for when I could get around a little better after a day or two. So the lesson is, not only to have supplies that you need but to also make sure that you can access them if needed. I live in a trailer so it wasn't practical to store the walker in the house due to space. However, it is now kept in the house. I no longer trust my legs to get me up and down. The cane usually stays with me just in case I need it. Of course, I could have used it yesterday, but is it with me. Of course not, I went out of town and left it at home. I have another item to add to the list. After my daughter's injury, I started to keep a gait belt with me. I have one from work, but also found they have something similar in yoga supplies to help maintain position. pulling on clothing to assist someone to stand is not good. Lifting up under the arms can cause damage and a gait belt allows you to help someone balance when the walk on their own. My daughter lives in a split level, so once she could walk we needed to be able to get her up and down stairs. A gait belt is invaluable and can be used as a binding strap as well to keep a stack together when carrying something. A very practical item. I have one in the house and one in my car.
  4. Deb2of9

    Prepping for the “Golden Years”

    Haven't been on here in a while. My preps are definitely changing. I have gotten so far behind, that I don't feel I am prepped at all right now. I had been out of work for about a year and used my supplies and emergency funds. My brother hit hard times and moved in and my income decreased and I had twice as many to support just when the price of everything went up. It did not allow me to rebuild my preps. At best I have about 2-3 weeks of supplies right now. My household has changed. My one brother got a full time job and moved out with my younger brother and my daughter also got a part time job. I no longer am the sole support for everyone. I ended up concentrating on knowledge at the expense of supplies and did not do as well as I would like with that. However, now that I am restarting my preps, my focus is changing. One reason is I have developed more physical issues. I have had back and knee problems for years, but this past year and a half I have added a bad hip and the knee has gotten so bad, that I spent almost a week out of work because I couldn't even stand, let alone walk. I have started to worry about what I could handle. A 92 year old lady that my daughter runs errands for and helps where ever she needs has added to this. She lives alone an has health issues and has fallen several times. We constantly worry if we don't hear from her that we will find her dead. Add to that last year I fell and hit my head. I ended up with 12 stitches. Although I was not home alone, I was the only driver out of 4 adults and could not drive myself to get stitches. My older daughter's car was in the shop. We ended up calling her and she got a neighbor to drive her out so she could use my car to get me the help I need. All of that has contributed to the other big change, I have semi-retired. I can't handle a 40 work week anymore. I now work 3 days out of every two weeks. I find it is much better for me health wise. This has led to me changing how I look at prepping. First of all, I am considering moving to town. I currently live out of town with my younger daughter. She doesn't drive, so if I was unable to drive us, we would be stuck. Half of me would love to get a place near my older daughter so we could help each other out. She is recently divorced and as she is now a single mom, having help available would be useful. ( I am not sure I want to live that close to the grandkids. Full time around them might drive me crazy.) Because of my physical limitations as I have gotten older and my body has started to fall apart, I am looking at prepping differently. I am never going to be able to carry much with me if I had to bug out, So I have to focus at shelter in place. In fact just yesterday a simple thing of an escalator defeated me. I am stiff and unsteady every time I stand up. The escalator was moving so fast, I couldn't safely step on to it. They have never been a problem for me before. Mowing my lawn took me 3 days ( about an acre) and left me so sore I couldn't move afterwards. So physically, what will I be able to handle. I am looking at step saving methods that limit my lifting, bending over or stooping to long and realistically, I would have to figure where to hide until danger was past rather than flee. I wouldn't make it if I have to bug out fast and would slow everyone else down. So as I have gotten older, I know I need to do the following: 1. associate with a group with varied ages so that there are people that can focus on the more physically demanding job. Develop a better support system 2. Allow more time to do everything. That mowing job would have taken much less time for a younger more physically fit person. 3. Concentrate on staying put safely instead of bugging out. Bugging out is definitely a last resort. 4. Develop useful skills so that I am an asset to any group I am with. 5. Encourage others to prep so that more people near me are ready if something happens. 6. Accept that I might need help and will not be able to do it all on my own. 7. A big one is to concentrate on areas of weakness and find ways to compensate for my physical limitations and find a better way to accomplish tasks that needs to be done. That means looking into ways I can keep use of power so that I have the ability to keep doing everything from cooking to cutting wood without the expense of my energy. I know I do not have the ability to do a lot of the things necessary to survive on my own. I have to improve my physical ability to my maximum potential, but to find ways to adapt and survive with my shortcomings that I can not change. I can not magically make my knees, back or hips work again. I have to accept that I may have to carry a couple or even one thing at a time because I no longer have the strength, physical dexterity or even the mental acuity that I had when I was younger and before my job did the damage that has been done to my body. I need help, can not do it on my own and need to focus on the most efficient use of my time and abilities. Now, how I am going to accomplish all I need to do is another matter. I am now on a fixed income and realistically have to accept that I may become a dependent with in the next 10 years or I could be one of those 100 year olds someday that people are amazed by how well they are doing. I think in shorter terms now though, because I know there will come a day when I won't be able to do as much as I want. I is just that I need to think about health and physical issues more now and make plans to how I can be the most useful with my current abilities. On the other hand, being older does not mean helpless or useless. I still have a lot to contribute to a group and need to concentrate on where I can and not on what I can not do.
  5. Deb2of9

    Urgent prayers needed

    I was really upset last night and so I said my nephew when it was my grandson that was missing. He has been found. I am not sure about his emotional state. What has led up to this is a long story. My daughter and her husband separated last summer. It was due to the children being removed by CPS because of her husband. The kids are back now and at this time their is a temporary restraining order against him. The abuse was mostly emotional and mental abuse, with some physical. They also believe sexual against one of the girls but they haven't been able to get any proof. However this is what drove my grandson away when he was a couple months shy of 18. He moved in with his girlfriend and her family. She is about a year younger than him and they have been engaged since about a year after that. Unfortunately, what we didn't know is her home life was as messed up as his, actually, maybe more so. Her mother was forced out of the house about a year later. Her Dad moved in with his girl friend and my grandson and his fiancé went with them. We only found out recently how bad it was. At first, the father did odd jobs, but he got my grandson to do all the work and he kept the money. Wanting to marry his fiancé, my grandson found a really good job. It paid over $20 an hour. His fiancé's father kept all of the paycheck except for $100. Also the fiancé and her mother had always been small as long as we knew them and very pasty in color. Her mother improved when she moved out, but his fiancé didn't. In fact, she got worse. About a month ago my grandson bought a pull behind trailer and moved out. It is basically a camper, but it is his home. He rents a space in someone's back yard. The end of March, my grandson was asked by his fiancé's family for some money for groceries. They said their was no food in the house. He gave them $200 but instead of groceries the Dad bought late Christmas gifts. My grandson was upset about this and told them that they were never going to get any more money from him. My grandson's fiancé decided to go to my grandson's place after a big fight with her father where he attacked my grandson who was helping her leave. A week later she was in a panic because her dad kept trying to force her to leave the house. He called his mom and she went to stay with her. That only lasted a night, but my daughter was shocked when she saw her. His fiancé had lost a lot more weight. In fact my daughter said she looked like pictures of concentration camp prisoners. When my daughter fed her she was afraid to eat. She said she would get into trouble if she ate anything. It came out that they fed her very little and she was not allowed to eat anything unless it was given to her by them. I will add that her father and his girl friend are both on the heavy side. Anyway, his fiancé came back to his house and that is when we got the next shock. It seems the Dad showed up only with the sheriff this time. They forcefully removed her from my grandson's place, kicking and screaming. It seems her father had got her listed as incompetent and made himself guardian. He had apparently done it a while before although she had no knowledge of this. He also has been receiving social security check for her for years. He is claiming her defect is low intelligence. I have worked with the developmentally disabled. She is not. She may not be brilliant, but she is of average intelligence. Yet he has used this to lock her up in his place. She is not allowed to answer the door, talk on the phone or get online. She has to go to her room if anyone comes to the house. She has not been allowed to see anyone for about two weeks now. Her Dad told my grandson that she didn't want to see him. In his state, my grandson believes he must have done something wrong and just wants her back. He feels his life isn't worth living without her and thinks she rejected him. I am pretty sure it is her Dad that is doing it no her. This is a real mess. Add to it the mess my son-in-law has caused and it is a problem. My son-in-law actually got up in court the other day and gave a bold face lie. He told the court that my daughter had him accused of killing my grandson in 2010 and that she had left my grandson alone when it happened with only his then 15 year old brother to watch him. He did this to manipulate my daughter. Not only was she home her son died in front of her. They had thought he took some pills, but later that was proved wrong. However in court he told them that my daughter said he killed him by letting him get his pills when it was her pills that did it and then he proceeded to say how the pills did it. He also said he was read his rights after she accused him. One they were both read their rights, prior to them investigating the death. His death was sudden and therefore suspicious. The pills suspected was never his and my daughter was so zone out at the time, she couldn't have accused him of anything. He was in court for harassment charges because even though they feel he is a potential family annihilator based on texts and phone messages he left. He told her that he already had the gravestone with their names on it and they would all go to eternity together. He also said he could take someone out for $70. It is all pretty scary. One night he called her 31 times alone over 6 hours and that was just the cell phone. That is not counting the calls to the home phone and texts he sent. So he is adding all sorts of stress to the situation. I am worried about my grandson as well as the rest of the family with all that is going on. I am also worried about the fiancé. My daughter has placed a call to adult protective services for her and is waiting a call back. Please pray for all of them.
  6. My nephew is missing. He has been depressed lately and disappeared today leaving his phone and wallet behind. He left a note saying that there is no point anymore. He recently broke up with his girlfriend.
  7. might be an effective ploy if they are really staying aware to change tactics if necessary
  8. Deb2of9

    Prayers needed for my family

    Thank you for all the prayers. I think that this past year is one of those that shows how much your world can change quickly. I can see post be in alot of this, for instance my daughter is now seeing that she was in an abusive relationship and is trying to change it. It has been hard convincing her that just because he didn't beat her, that does not mean she wasn't being abused. He was physical and has had her flee the house for the safety of herself and the kids a number of times but made excuses that it was because he was drinking or under a lot of stress. The fact that she couldn't go or do anything, have anything in her name and had to keep in constant touch by phone wasn't seen by her. He even kept telling the kids that they were responsible for her health issues and that they were killing her. Now she is starting to take control of her life and the kids aren't afraid to be kids. Yes I worry but I see things getting better as they get through this. As for the job, I was thank ng of leaving anyway. The new owners have made working conditions horrible since they bought the place two years ago. I just would have preferred leaving on my own with a new job to take its place. But even that, Change may be a good thing. It is getting through the now that is rough. As I said my sister and my job were both a shock but my daughters situation has me to n fear.
  9. I would love to have a spinning wheel. I have read a little bit about spinning flax. It would be another source to have for material to spin and possibly to weave. I have a small lap loom and weaving is the next thing for me to learn.
  10. There has been so much happening in my life since last summer, it is hard to know where to start. My whole family needs prayers for many different things. I will start with the most recent because in a way they are the least complicated. The most recent thing that has upset our personal world is that I lost my job. I am looking an am confident that I will find a new job that is better for me, but in the mean time I am looking at only my final check. Since I was fired for what I feel was unjust reasons, I did apply for unemployment but who knows if it will come through. After all, they did give a cause, so who knows if I will get it. As I am the main support for my household of four, I am worried I will not be able to make the bills. I also do not have nearly as much preps as I had in the past. About 6 years ago the place I worked closed down. I was out of work for a year and used most of my preps. I started back to work at less pay and quickly added two more people to my household. With prices going up everyday and more people to feed and care for, I never did get my preps built up to more than a month or so and a recent problem with my car was so costly that it cost my emergency fund. I literally was counting change to pay bills this past week. So prayers that I will not only find a job but the right job will be appreciated. Asking for prayers for myself seems selfish, but I know my job affects more than me. That my brother finds more than part time work or the others in the house also find work would be great. Who knows, maybe I am out of work to help motivate the others to start pulling their own weight. (My youngest daughter , 26, two brothers 55 and 57 live with me.) Only one of them works and that is a job that is 6 hours a week and some freelance stuff online. It doesn't contribute much to the household income. The next world shattering thing that happened is that my sister and her husband of almost 42 years have split up. My sister was shattered. Her husband came in one day and said he needed to reset his life and left. He had apparently been thinking of it for a while because he had a place to go, but she didn't have a clue. It got me to thinking long and hard. My niece asked me what they would do now. She said will Mom loose her family, her friends and her church? You see, although my brothers and I live about an hour away from her, most of her "family" is really his family. I don't see that changing. They have taken us all in and her nieces and nephews consider me their aunt as well. I don't see a divorce changing that and I don't think friends would be a problem. However, although I don't see her church as a problem in her case, it could be. This brings me to the final and biggest thing that I need prayers for and that is my oldest daughter. Last summer we were hit with a bombshell. My grandchildren were removed from the home due to claims of abuse. My daughter's world was crushed and she couldn't understand it as she never abused her children. It turns out two of the children said they didn't feel safe in the home. Well, after a summer in foster care and weekly supervised visits with them then unsupervised she got the children back. She only got them back after her husband agreed to leave the house. You see, she had started to work outside the home and he was the one that the complaints of abuse were against. The claim against her was only due to inaction and not realizing that he was physically and emotionally abusing the children. It was a long hard summer, but finally he agreed to leave and she got the kids back provisionally. He had not once gone to have a visit with the kids, but after he left the home he did. After the first visit, my daughter's eyes opened when my grandson age 7 said it was a good visit because daddy didn't hurts us or wasn't mean to us once. She started reviewing things and saw much. Before long my soon to be ex son in law started to threaten her over the phone and text messages. He had a do not contact order regarding the kids, but he continued to harass her to the point of calling her cell phone while he was also calling the home phone. This prevented my daughter from working as she works from home online taking those 1-800 phone calls for everything from sales to charities. She got a temporary restraining order based on threats he made. The judge threw it out stating that she was using the courts as a weapon against her husband. The threats got worse. He said that the fact that the judge threw it out was proof that God was with him and that she would be punished. A new temporary restraining order was issued when he left a message saying that they already had their names on the gravestone with their son that had died between them and that when they went to eternity, they would go as a family. He now is facing charges of the lowest level of domestic violence. The whole family is a mess and she lives in constant fear. He was in a psych unit for eval but is out now at a family members home and has started stalking her staying just out of the 500 ft that he has to be by the restraining order. She had a hard time deciding as she believes marriage is for life and is now filing for divorce. In the mean time, her daughters have a different father that has been kept out of their lives. He has served time for child molesting and finding this out is why she broke contact with him. He also has made threats against her as recently as 5 years ago when he found her after my grandson died. Because CPS got involved, they contacted him and he is now again in her life. We had a horrible time of it when she was involved with him. He even went so far as to stalk me to try to find out where she was. He had set fire to a workman's truck just because he was putting a fence up around her place that was ordered by the landlord. So not only is she dealing with the new fears, but the old ones have come back into her life. I worry about my daughter on two levels. One is that one of these two will actually cause harm to her or the children and the other that the stress of worrying about it will cause her harm. Among other issues, she has serious heart problems. It has taken a lot to get her to accept that this is not her fault. I have had to talk her through what problems her husband has caused in her life by going back step by back till before they were married. He has always been controlling and manipulating and emotionally and mentally abusive, but I could not make her see it. In fact all I could do was stand by and help her as needed for fear he would cut off all contact with me. He had already cut off most of the contact prior to his own mother dying. At that time he allowed me back into their lives. I was in fear that if I said too much or did too much, she would side with him and I would lose my ability to be there for them. Having been in an abusive marriage myself I saw the signs but could not do anything until she was ready. Please pray for my family that we will all overcome the issues in our lives. My loss of job is small potatoes compared to everything else. It is just the icing on the cake. It does have the blessing of allowing me to be there for my daughter more.
  11. Ok, this may not seem like much, but what I have done this week is to start learning a new skill. I have always loved knitting, crocheting, needlepoint, etc. Well my newest skill that I have then turned around and taught my oldest daughter as well is to spin my own thread. I bought a hand spindle and a bag of wool and am working on spinning enough for my first project of a shawl. My brother saw my progress and asked when it was going to be a hat. I told him wait your turn. When I saw this bag of brown wool, I knew it would be a shawl and I love shawls. I chill easily but due to hot flashes can just as easily turn to roasting. The shawl is the perfect answer. It is easy on and off and can also can be used as a cover for a child or even just your lap. After I get better at hand spinning, I want to learn to use a spinning wheel and to weave. I feel this is a good skill to have and I love to make things for myself and others to use. As I said, it isn't something that adds to my preps, but every new skill you master is just as important if not more so than the material things you gather. You need the materials, but without out the knowledge and skills to know what to do with them, they are just things.
  12. Deb2of9

    Knot tying Practice Challenge Issued.

    This a good skill to have. Will give it a try. Found a book on knots called The Klutz book of knots by John Cassidy.
  13. This is a good exercuse. I will have to give it some thought. If we nly had the $60 cash, that would be difficult, but more manageable if electronic banking is still posible. Would I still be able to deposit my paycheck to pay bills. If not, what would be the point of giing to work? I would be better off staying home, limiting my gas use and attempt to grow my own food. So whether electronic transactions are still possible and how you would get paid are important questions to answer. I don't use much cash but rent alone would not be possoble with $60 limit
  14. I think it sometimes. you get hit with two much. News today, Niece who was just pronounced cancer free from colon cancer now had a lump show up on her mammogram. Biopsy will be done next month. Nephew who lost custody of his daughters to his ex wife is in a mens shelter and suicidal. This has been touch and go since his divorce a year ago. Finally, it will be at least a month until the first chance ti get my grand kids back. I couldn't go into the hearing, but it does seem that the judge is being fair. It is just that since the kids are in the system , a full investigation has to be done. The complaint lists two of the kids with potential sexual abuse and yes it was the two that tell stories all the time. I believe that those two have problems. gd#1 is a mess and I really don't believe half if what she says. I am not as sure about my grandson but not only does he tell stories like you wouldn't believe, he will do anything to please his sister. The thing is they do not claim anything has happened in the past 6 - 9 months yet the kids suddenly couldn't stay home. I am confused. The judge yelled at the social worker because she failed to review the whole record. She claimed my daughter and her husband have not cooperated and were hiding things. She failed to mention that the kids have gone to every appointment, home inspection, and anything they were asked. Her oldest son was the first accused and my daughter and her husband reported it themselves which is where CPS involvement started. He has been out of the house for two years now.. She had not reviewed previous records including the reports from gd#1 psych records. The prosecutor wondered why this was pursued and. the judge said he hopes they have more than they presented because there really wasn't enough there. So although there is a long road again, it doesn't look hopeless. The good news is the boys are together and the girls are also together. That I have mixed feelings about as gd#1 loves to antagonize and even terrorize gd#2. I believe it will work out in the end.
  15. Getting. ready. to go to court for the hearing. I am fairly certain the most we will get today is the reason given for all of this as they have not said anything yet. I continue to worry about my daughter. Since Friday morning she has eaten a small salad, a few crackers and a cheese danish. I am not sure if she is taking her medicine right but I know she is out of her anxiety med and a critical heart med. She can't get refills without seeing the doctor who is going out if town. They scheduled the court hearing for when she was supposed to see her doctor. Her heart rhythm is messed up and that is what the med is supposed to correct.. I hope we can get her squeezed in to the doctor after court. Thank you for your continued prayers.
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