Ambergris Posted February 20, 2010 Share Posted February 20, 2010 Tough love is tough. And now a boy I love is homeless. Link to comment
SueC Posted February 20, 2010 Share Posted February 20, 2010 Hang in there - and always let him know that you love him and there is an alternative to his behaviour. Link to comment
Deerslayer Posted February 21, 2010 Share Posted February 21, 2010 (((((( ambergris))))) funny about that name--tough love--it is supposed to mean you are tough on them--but having had to do it myself for several years--i am fully aware that the name actually means--tough on the parents!!! hang in there!!! Link to comment
Cat Posted February 21, 2010 Share Posted February 21, 2010 I'm so sorry, Sweetie. I'm guessing he has *SOME* place to go. But it won't be home. May he stay safe. May he find the truth about what his life can be. And may our dear Ambergris find peace and comfort in the painful things we all sometimes have to do, knowing it is ultimately for their own good. Link to comment
nmchick Posted February 21, 2010 Share Posted February 21, 2010 ((((((((((Ambergris)))))))))) Link to comment
Violet Posted February 21, 2010 Share Posted February 21, 2010 Ambergris, I am so sorry. Having children who need a swift kick in the pants is hard !!! Sometimes we have to do this to make them wake up. If we keep enabling them, that really is not helping them at all. I know how hard this is on you. Hang in there. Yes, you need some hugs, so I am sending you some from me. Truly, Violet Link to comment
Mother Posted February 21, 2010 Share Posted February 21, 2010 I have a few extra hugs to spare. I sure know how badly you need them..... Link to comment
Christy Posted February 21, 2010 Share Posted February 21, 2010 Big hugs and a shoulder for (((((Ambergris))))) Link to comment
CrabGrassAcres Posted February 21, 2010 Share Posted February 21, 2010 Here is another BIG HUG! Remember that your young man is much better off learning his lesson now, while he is young and has nobody depending on him. If he flubs it up, he should suffer the consequences NOT YOU and not some innocent child. So no fair kicking yourself or second guessing. Link to comment
Ambergris Posted February 22, 2010 Author Share Posted February 22, 2010 Thank you all. Link to comment
Amishway Homesteaders Posted February 22, 2010 Share Posted February 22, 2010 The hard part is having to watch things unfold and knowing you can't do anything about it. You can talk and do for them (child) until you are blue in the face but sometimes they just have to learn it on their own so it sinks in. Now we don't know if this is something that happened because of the world around him or did he do it to himself (and that doesn't matter) but whatever hopefully things can be better soon. ((((((((((((((both)))))))))))))))))))))))))) Link to comment
TurtleMama Posted February 22, 2010 Share Posted February 22, 2010 Oh, Ambergris... May God bless you and guide both you and your son. Link to comment
Dee Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 I've been in your shoes and it's so tough. Please know I'm sending up for you. Link to comment
HSmom Posted February 24, 2010 Share Posted February 24, 2010 I'm sorry for your pain, Ambergris. Link to comment
Ambergris Posted February 24, 2010 Author Share Posted February 24, 2010 He came by for some of his things. I sent him off with a hug and a big box of eggs and some other food, but he is not living in a healthful situation. I really don't know if he's going to stop before he hits the bottom of the well. Link to comment
CrabGrassAcres Posted February 25, 2010 Share Posted February 25, 2010 Some will turn around before they hit rock bottom and some won't. We grieve for them, but sometimes, trying to help only delays and/or worsens things. He has to help himself. Nobody can do it for him. Link to comment
Skagitgal Posted February 25, 2010 Share Posted February 25, 2010 Big, Big, BIG hugs from a ma that had 10 years of this. Eventually all children grow up. Link to comment
Stephanie Posted March 4, 2010 Share Posted March 4, 2010 Hugs from me too! We've recently been reconnected with some former foster children who are now adults and for the first time I'm seeing the tremendous and unique challenge of dealing with 'adult children'. Just the term itself...says a lot! Link to comment
Ambergris Posted March 5, 2010 Author Share Posted March 5, 2010 He's twenty-five. And still a kid. I know what you mean. Thanks, everyone. Link to comment
ANewMe Posted March 5, 2010 Share Posted March 5, 2010 ((Amber))...I am so very sorry for you. I am going through the same thing right now and mine is 18. He most likely will not graduate. I can no longer fight him, girlfriend, her family, my sister in laws.....today I changed my number. One of the hardest things I've had to do. Please don't hesitate to PM any time if you need to chat and I'll give you my cell. We can cry together. Many, many hugs sent your way. Link to comment
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