Guest Zzelle Posted February 11, 2019 Share Posted February 11, 2019 I have had horrible anxiety lately and I do not know what to do. I take medication for it. We have 2 sons that are special needs and they are getting older going through changes and they are making my nerves go on edge. I try to be calm and relaxing but it does not work . I do not know what to do. Quote Link to comment
euphrasyne Posted February 11, 2019 Share Posted February 11, 2019 I have several of the same issues. Some days I just have to sit back and decide that I am going to have to let something go. Sometimes that is standards my family tries to keep and sometimes it is my mind. We put my oldest in counseling and found an excellent therapist. I think it has saved my sanity and my blood pressure. Quote Link to comment
zzelle Posted February 11, 2019 Share Posted February 11, 2019 All three of our children have counseling and therapy. They are in medication. They love to push each other the boys and then they push me. I try to calm myself down but sometimes I can not because they will not. Thank you for your response. Quote Link to comment
euphrasyne Posted February 11, 2019 Share Posted February 11, 2019 My DD16 is hearing impaired, ADHD, and has an executive functioning disorder. She will probably live with me for the rest of my life. We went through several therapists over the years and I think some actually made it worse. We are blessed that we found this one. The differences have been night and day since finding him and I kick myself for trying to make the last one work when she obviously wasn't helping. Quote Link to comment
zzelle Posted February 12, 2019 Share Posted February 12, 2019 All three of our children have counseling and therapy. They are in medication. They love to push each other the boys and then they push me. I try to calm myself down but sometimes I can not because they will not. Thank you for your response. Quote Link to comment
zzelle Posted February 12, 2019 Share Posted February 12, 2019 Our oldest son is 16 and has the mind of a 6 year old and will more then likely live with us for the rest of his life. Some things he understands and other things he does not. Quote Link to comment
Jeepers Posted February 12, 2019 Share Posted February 12, 2019 I'm sorry you are going through this Zzelle. I don't have any experience with special needs children. Just be sure you take full advantage of all the help that is available to you and never give up. Don't settle. There is someone out there skilled in what YOU need and not necessarily THEY have to offer. I do have plenty of prayers and hugs to offer though. 2 Quote Link to comment
zzelle Posted February 12, 2019 Share Posted February 12, 2019 Thank you everyone I really appreciate all the responses. It means a lot time. 1 Quote Link to comment
Ambergris Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 I know. My old rule of thumb was that 1/3 of the counselors you meet will be toxic. 1/3 will be useless or mildly helpful. You have to keep searching until you find one in the final third--because that counselor will save your life. We sure found a lot in the two-thirds. 2 Quote Link to comment
zzelle Posted February 20, 2019 Share Posted February 20, 2019 We have went through a lot also. We have just been through so much and now we are going through so much more because of someone who started something. 2 Quote Link to comment
zzelle Posted February 23, 2019 Share Posted February 23, 2019 (edited) This person ha started so much and now and we have to fix so much. She is still trying to start more stuff. I have no idea why. She is making things up about our family. My anxiety is through the roof. I had to get on more meds because of it. Edited February 23, 2019 by zzelle Double post 3 Quote Link to comment
Ambergris Posted February 23, 2019 Share Posted February 23, 2019 This, too, shall pass. 1 Quote Link to comment
zzelle Posted February 23, 2019 Share Posted February 23, 2019 Thank you i hope soon 1 Quote Link to comment
The WE2's Posted February 23, 2019 Share Posted February 23, 2019 We make it an absolute rule to "eliminate" from our sphere anyone who would bring strife, disorder, unhappiness into our lives...especially those who lie about us. 3 Quote Link to comment
Jeepers Posted February 23, 2019 Share Posted February 23, 2019 I have extended family members who are toxic people. Who doesn't? One is bi-polar and one is just a liar. Fortunately they are siblings so it's easier to 'monitor' whatever they say. I'm cordial but we know where we stand with each other and why. And the rest of my family knows where I stand and why. I'm honest that way. I love my family but I love my own mental health just a little bit more. People like that can not be trusted because any little innocent thing you might say becomes twisted around to suit their needs. Which is why I can't have any contact with them. It's too bad because they can have their good side too. Most of my other family members feel the same way. It's sad but a little comforting to know it's not just in my head. When I say I'm cordial I mean we can attend the same funeral without another casket being added that day. At the last family funeral crazy cousin went to hug another of our cousins and that cousin pushed her away and yelled, "Get off of me!" Quite the little show. So yeah... BTW, there were 30 of us cousins and only two were ostracized. Didn't want anyone to think all of my family was dysfunctional. 4 Quote Link to comment
Annarchy Posted February 23, 2019 Share Posted February 23, 2019 Maybe... time to find someone else ... ??!?? I had a few that were extremely toxic, and, tried to make me believe they were right... tragic.... 1 Quote Link to comment
zzelle Posted February 23, 2019 Share Posted February 23, 2019 She is a person who is training at his school and she asked him a question and he did not give the answer she wanted and she made stuff up to make herself look good. I told the school she is not allowed to talk to either of my kids.I hope that works 1 Quote Link to comment
Jeepers Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 Good for you Zzelle. Quote Link to comment
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