SueC Posted December 22, 2006 Share Posted December 22, 2006 I am so frustrated. My Mum and Dad were to drive up and spend Christmas with us, it would be the first time they have visited in about 6 years. Then I get an email, sorry they cant come. It turns out that Dad's heart is playing up (Oh and the boys, my brothers, dont know). So I keep asking questions, 3 or 4 years ago they discovered that he had a leaky heart valve and he has been on medication for it. It is so hard trying to get a clear picture, they are only telling me the bare minimum. Mum said she was tired. Why? Because she hasn't been sleeping well, because she keeps getting up to check if Dad is still breathing! It would be nice if they told some of us what was going on. On top of that I realised that when I am asked if there is any family history of heart trouble I have always said no, because although my Grandpa died of a heart attack at 59, to my knowledge there was no one else with heart problems. But now I realise that I have to go back to my Dr to check whether any of my medications need to be changed. I dont know whether to tell my brothers what is going on, or wait a couple of weeks and see if they know. I am just so frustrated with it all. Sue Link to comment
Mt_Rider Posted December 23, 2006 Share Posted December 23, 2006 Health issues is such a rotten way for a family celebration to be thwarted. So sorry. Praying for your peace and choices. And to have a blessed Christmas despite all this going on. MtRider Link to comment
dogmom4 Posted December 23, 2006 Share Posted December 23, 2006 Sue Praying for some peace of mind this holiday. Stacy Link to comment
Snowmom Posted December 30, 2006 Share Posted December 30, 2006 Sue, how did things work out, are you doing ok?? Have you any information on how bad the leak is that your dad has?? Can he get it fixed?? I do hope you had a great Christmas. Link to comment
SueC Posted December 31, 2006 Author Share Posted December 31, 2006 Thanks everyone for your kind words. Dad has had a whole lot of tests and has to wait another week before his doctor comes back from holidays to find out what is going on. It would seem that the leaky valve is a minor problem as apparently it has been around for a while! Mum said things are going a whole lot better - more prayer before they go to sleep and they both get a good nights sleep. So now it is just wait and see what happens. Sue Link to comment
SueC Posted December 31, 2006 Author Share Posted December 31, 2006 What a difference an hour makes - Big Brother just rang, Dad is on his way to hospital with breathing difficulties, Now I have to wait until my brother knows more. So I might have a trip south. Sue Link to comment
zzelle Posted December 31, 2006 Share Posted December 31, 2006 i am so sorry to hear of all the bad news. i will be praying for you and your familiy. God bless you Link to comment
SueC Posted December 31, 2006 Author Share Posted December 31, 2006 My Mum has made it home (about 10.30 pm) Dad has been kept in hospital. They want to reduce the fluid around his lungs. It is all connected to heart problems. At least now he will see a specialist which the GP would not refer him to. So time will tell. Sue Link to comment
Necie Posted December 31, 2006 Share Posted December 31, 2006 Hope all turns out well, and your mom can get some rest. Link to comment
SueC Posted January 1, 2007 Author Share Posted January 1, 2007 Thank you so much for all the prayers. Dad is doing ok. It seems I still know quite a bit more than any of my brothers, but at least they are now in the loop. It is up to them to ask questions! Mum admitted tonight that if Dad was transferred to a different hospital she would ring me to come down and be with her. But they are monitoring his heart closely and giving diuretics by injection twice a day to reduce the excess fluid. Now he will have access to cardiac specialists instead of having to go on a waiting list, so that is a positive thing. Mum had a good nights sleep, did a few things this morning and had a nap before she went to visit at the hospital, so she is catching up with her health. I will still keep close to the phone this week and keep things clear. But I shouldn't need to rush down. Thanks again for being here - I really needed a sounding board! Sue Link to comment
Snowmom Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 Sue, you can sound off any time you want to here. Link to comment
cookiejar Posted January 2, 2007 Share Posted January 2, 2007 Hey Chica, Just keep talking buddy. I'm glad things are looking brighter. Don't forget to take care of you!!! You and your family ('specially your Dad) are in my prayers and good thoughts, chica. I'm glad you don't have to rush there and that they can do so much good for him. warm hugs to you Link to comment
SueC Posted January 2, 2007 Author Share Posted January 2, 2007 Just a quick update, Dad is still in hospital, they are adjusting his medication to get better over all affect. The good news is that there appears to be no damage to the heart through all of this. I told my Mum that I realised I needed to update my Doctors records, that there is some family history of heart problems, and she gave me even more info. So I have a clearer idea of family history. Also an added incentive to lose that weight off my tummy. (and every where else) Thanks again Sue Link to comment
zzelle Posted January 4, 2007 Share Posted January 4, 2007 still praying for you and your family. God bless you Link to comment
SueC Posted January 5, 2007 Author Share Posted January 5, 2007 Thanks everyone I am trying to keep in touch with Mum as much as possible. The doctors are now looking to see if Dad had a silent heart attack, which could have triggered everything and might have weakened his heart. They are both starting to get rather bored with the whole routine! Thanks for all your prayers Sue Link to comment
SueC Posted January 5, 2007 Author Share Posted January 5, 2007 Dad was discharged today, the result is that nothing really was proven. The Doctors think he must of had a reaction to an ingredient in his medication. Mum and Dad have asked that I pass on their thanks for the prayers, they are sure that the prayers have made the difference. And I thank you all to, it is nice to know that this is not the beginning of ongoing problems. Sue Link to comment
zzelle Posted January 5, 2007 Share Posted January 5, 2007 i am glad he is home from the hospital. sill praying. God Bless. Link to comment
MommyofSeven Posted February 3, 2007 Share Posted February 3, 2007 Sue, I can sympathize with you there. On my dad's first two heart attacks, my mom told me after the fact-three weeks after the second. I finally sat her down and told her that I understood that she was trying to spare me from worrying, but that, if it was bad, I deserved the right to say goodbye. That she could understand. I did, as his health continued to decline, make sure that we had the opportunity to say what needed to be said. Mo7 Link to comment
SueC Posted February 7, 2007 Author Share Posted February 7, 2007 Dad has amazed the doctors as he has bounced back really well. I think both Mum and Dad have got the message from my brothers that they want to be told when there is a problem, not when it gets really bad, so hopefully they will be better at keeping us all informed. But I suspect, it is only as I see them and ask questions that I get the info still. Being nearly 5 hours away makes it hard. But I will see them at the end of march at my oldest bros wedding. Sue Link to comment
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