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The 90/10 Secret Is Incredible!


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The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know and apply this secret. The

result? Millions of people are suffering undeserved stress, trials,

problems, and heartache. They never seem to be a success in life. Bad

days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening.

Theirs is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry

consumes time, anger breaks friendships, and life seems dreary and is

not enjoyed to the fullest.. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often

seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged. You

can be different!. Understand and apply the 90/10 secret. It will change

your life! What is this secret? 10% of life is made up of what happens

to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.


What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens

to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane may be late

arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off

in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.


The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%! How? By your

reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your



Don't let people fool you, YOU can control how you react!


Let's use an example.


You're eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a

cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what

just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react.


You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the coffee cup

over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your

spouse and criticize her for placing the cup to close to the edge of the

table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your



Back downstairs you find your daughter has been too busy crying to

finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your

spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive

your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an

hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone.


After a 15 minute delay and throwing $60 (traffic fine) away, you arrive

at school. Your daughter runs to the building without saying good-bye.

After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your



Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse

and worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive home you find

a small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.


Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.


Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the Policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?


The answer is D. You had no control over what happened with the coffee.

How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.


Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over

you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say "It's OK honey, you

just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush

upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase. You come back

down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on

the bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before you both

go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.

Your boss comments on how good of day you are having.


Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same.

Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not

have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined

by your reaction.


Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret.


If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let

the attack roll off like water on glass. You do not have to let the

negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your

day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired,

getting stressed out, etc.


How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you loose your

temper? Pound the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering

wheel fall off!) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do

you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at

work? Why let the blue car ruin your drive. Remember the 90-10

principle, and do not worry about it!


You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated? It will

work out. Use your "worrying" energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why

take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control

over what is going on. Use your time to study, to get to know the other

passengers, etc. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.


You now know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will be amazed at the


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Thanks for posting this. I needed the reminder.

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Thanks this is a great reminder. I need to keep this in mind right now. DF and I will both be out of jobs soon for the 2nd time in a year. Guess all use all the Frustration and worry energy to keep searching for a better place.

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