KatMom Posted September 6, 2007 Share Posted September 6, 2007 I just found out this morning that my older brother passed away in the night. I haven't seen him for about a year. He was living with my husband and I but he decided to go to Tennessee and live with our younger brother. Ron has been very ill and unable to work for a lot of years.He had CHF,he'd had bypass surgery,many,many problems. It was hard for my younger brother finding him gone this morning but it was not unexpected. He's in a better place,now. I just wanted to tell someone.Ron and I were pretty close. I'm glad someone is there to help take care of him and he wasn't alone. Ron's children are pretty scattered,Maine,Minnesota,North Carolina. And his ex-wife whom he was still crazy about lived in Minnesota. It seems they got on better living apart. Isn't life strange? It seems like Ron's passing is bringing me back closer to our younger brother. David and I haven't always seen eye to eye. But we had a good talk this morning. I'm optimistic. Guess I'll stop rambling. Thanks for listening.Katmom Link to comment
Snowmom Posted September 6, 2007 Share Posted September 6, 2007 I'm so sorry to hear about this, . Yes, he is in a better place, no more pain. for you and all of your family. Link to comment
Maineiac Posted September 6, 2007 Share Posted September 6, 2007 I'll share with you some of the warth and hugs given to me by the folks here. My heart is with you. Link to comment
Melissa Posted September 6, 2007 Share Posted September 6, 2007 I am so sorry about your brother. We will pray for you and the family. Link to comment
KatMom Posted September 6, 2007 Author Share Posted September 6, 2007 Thank you so much, all of you. You really feel like friends. I sometimes have a hard time opening up to people, but you all make it a lot easier. Katmom Link to comment
mommato3boys Posted September 6, 2007 Share Posted September 6, 2007 Katmom, we will be praying for you and your family. Link to comment
Becca_Anne Posted September 7, 2007 Share Posted September 7, 2007 I'm so sorry for your loss Link to comment
SueC Posted September 7, 2007 Share Posted September 7, 2007 We cannot be there in person, but we all standing with you in spirit. Link to comment
JCK88 Posted September 7, 2007 Share Posted September 7, 2007 Katmom, Here's hoping that your faith will get you through and that the good memories you have of your brother bring comfort. Remember that all endings are beginnings, and that this one also is, too as he is in a better place. Link to comment
dogmom4 Posted September 7, 2007 Share Posted September 7, 2007 I'm so sorry Katmom. Stacy Link to comment
cookiejar Posted September 7, 2007 Share Posted September 7, 2007 I'm sorry at your loss also, my condolences and prayers for you and your family. warm hugs Link to comment
Deb2of9 Posted September 7, 2007 Share Posted September 7, 2007 I am sorry to hear about your brother. It isn't too surprising that you find your self getting closer to your younger brother. Death or a serious illness make us more aware of what we might lose if we sacrifice a relationship with someone we care about for whatever reason. Not only is it not unusual to feel closer to immediate family, sometimes people find themselves reaching out to more distant family and friends. We begin to see how fragile life is, and we want to be there for everyone we care about more than before. This is sometimes true even when you see the person everyday. If it is your kid, you might hug them more. You might reach out and keep in touch with other family members. My daughter and her husband were distanceing themselves from me. I am not sure the reason, but I think it had to do with my brother that I live with. They had a disagreement with him. I could still visit with no problem, but they never called or came by our place. Then my son in laws mother died. He suddenly decided that she should call me every week just to keep in touch. They went out of their way to have me involved in their lives. He felt the loss of his mother, and turned that into a fear that she would go through that as well and have regrets that we hadn't been closer. It gets like that sometimes. Unfortunately as with most relationships, if you don't make the effort, it may not last. Again, I am sorry to hear about your brother. I will pray for you and your family in your time of loss. Link to comment
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