A family in trouble.........

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As some of you know, I have a support group for step parents. Some of the ladies in my group have some pretty serious situations and they really could use all the prayers they can get.

 

The following is a copy of a message that was posted to the group. I have removed any identifying information. This lady is a very loving, sweet gal and does not deserve what she got and really needs a lot of prayers on her behalf. I know there are a lot of prayerful people here and I am requesting all your prayers to help this lady and this family out.

 

Hill

 

Her message follows............

 

I have not posted in a while because there has been so much chaos in

our house. Both SDs have been acting out and seriously disrespectful

in the past 2 months, since they're younger half sister was returned

to BM by CPS from another county. I have posted our situation before

so those of you who don't remember can look it up in the archives from

about 7 months ago(maybe more). Since that happened the CPS workers

attitude in our county has also changed to us not being able to do

anything right. While in middle September both SDs tried to report DH

and I for child abandonment (false of course). Both SDs have severe

PTSD from being beaten, starved and signs of sexual abuse by BM and

SF. Both DH and I have yelled at the girls when they got in trouble

but CPS asked me to get therapy for anger management. I had agreed to

do this but the social worker drug her feet, butt and everything else

to not give me a provider list of therapists, we cannot afford to pay

on our own. This is on the service plan for us to keep the kids. While

about 2 1/2 weeks ago oldest SD and I got in a fight because she was

being very disrespectful to her father and I. DH does nothing to

defend me except to tell me to back off in front of the kids. The

night before the false child abandonment report (to which she admitted

to her dad she did it to get back at me) and during this last fight

she said she hated me and didn't want me living there anymore. That

morning the social worker called and said she had canceled Phsyc.

appts for youngest SD because we had called again "complaing about her

behavior"

We were calling to let the phsyciatrist know that she was displaying

very violent behavior towards all of us and not sleeping even with two

meds. My DH told the social worker that we had found our own source

for me to get therapy and she said to my DH that it was too late. The

final hearing is scheduled for Oct. 20th, my DH will find out then

whether he gets to keep his kids or they go back to BM. While that

same afternoon of Sept. 22nd the social worker went to the schools and

talked to SD's, oldest SD told her a lie that I had been shoving them

and hitting them. The social worker called and said she was taking the

girls out of the home if DH did not leave me, because I am no longer

allowed to be around the kids. While DH and I are now seperated

because he chose to throw me out of the house (even while telling the

social worker I would never lay a hand on his kids). I had to move out

of the house and to Southern CA with my sister and her family, because

I only had enough money for a few days in a hotel and ran out of money

for food, and I have no job. The social worker even told my husband

that night that he had to take my name off the lease agreement where

we lived and if he didn't leave me the kids would be taken away and he

would never see them. These are scare tactics that are in clear

violation of CPS's own policy and also the BM has been allowed to have

supervised visits with the kids (the person with who they have actual

physical proof of the kids being abused). It is absurd that they would

threaten to have the fathers parental rights completely severed but

not BM. Now our marriage is in ruins along with my life because of

this lie, my husband has cut off communication with me because "he

needs to be a father to his kids." Why he didn't realize this before

is beyond me. Besides that he did make a commitment before God to

stand by me for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer

or poorer. I am hurt,angry and confused because I certainly have done

that for him and yet when it is my turn he panics and throws me away

like yesterdays trash(at least that is the way it feels). In case you

want to know I am seeking therapy where I am currently living. I will

ask for your prayers for my marriage to be healed if at all possible.

Please pray for my SD's that they come to understand the damage they

have caused and that this is wrong. Please pray for my husband to

learn to be just that a good husband and a good father at the same

time. He thinks he is doing the right thing by his children, but all

his actions have done is put me in jepeoardy and tell his kids it is

ok to ruin someones life with a lie.