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Honeybee

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  1. That Ultrasound photo is amazing, so much better than way back in the 70's & 80's. Congrats, SnowMom! Hope your water is fixed soon. I can't believe it's Wednesday already. Time just slips away faster & faster, it seems. I have laundry & dishes to do myself. and I think I'll bake some cookies today. It sure has cooled off enough outside to do some baking. Hope everyone has a great day today!
  2. Planted 36 tomato plants, 18 okra, and 12 zucchini in the salad garden. Will do onions, turnips, beets, lettuce & carrots today (I hope).
  3. Honeybee

    Rainy Tuesday

    Good Morning! We still need to finish unloading the van from our camping trip. Plus then there is washing all the nice, dirty clothes we brought home. I turned 4 gallons of milk into cheese yesterday, plus we got our tomatoes, zucchini, and okra planted. We planned to work on the garden some more today, but my back is sure sore from yesterday. Need to get the rest of the "salad" garden planted before we start on the big garden. Guess maybe a few rows of seeds planted today won't make my back feel any worse, eh? So many things to do, not enough time to get em all done it seems like, sometimes. Hope everyone has a great day today!
  4. We got back yesterday afternoon from a 4-day camping trip. I sure *needed* that time away. We spent 4 days doing nothing but eating, sleeping, and visiting with friends. It was definitely a good weekend. Lois, sorry to hear about your neighbor. Will be saying prayers for the family. It was so nice here all weekend long, then rained for just a bit yesterday. We got a pleasant surprise last night. When we got home, we could not find one of our dairy does. When hubby went out to milk, he found the missing doe in the other side of the barn with 2 brand-new doeling kids.. WoooHooo! We just recently bought her, and she was not supposed to be pregnant, but it was a nice surprise to find that she was pregnant after all. The kids are gorgeous.. It's good to be home.
  5. We didn't make enough $$ last year to *have to* file a tax return. Ah, the joys of being self-employed.... At least we have no debt load, which has been a definite blessing.
  6. Good Morning! It is day here - but then most days are laundry days here. Also trying to rearrange the south bedroom to get some plant stands into those south windows. Hope everyone has a great day!
  7. Honeybee

    Hello

    I'm still here too. We have been so busy with MIL being sick, then the arrangements after she passed.. We are going to take a small vacation soon & go camping for several days with some friends. I think that will be a nice get-away for us. Hello, everybody!
  8. Hope you are both feeling better soon.
  9. I thought I was doing fine a few days afterwards - and then I went to wash the dishes. We have a spot in front of the dish drainer where we put our 3 favorite coffee cups, meaning mine, Drone's, and Gramma's. No sense putting them in the cupboard because we'll be drinkin coffee pretty quick. Someone visiting a few days before she passed away used her coffee cup without realizing - and my first instinct was to snatch the coffee cup away, bip him in the forehead, and say, Hey, that is GRAMMA'S cup. I didn't, of course, but the thought did cross my mind. She used to give one of our son-in-laws "what-for" all the time for using her cup instead of getting a clean one out of the cupboard. So, as I was putting the clean dishes away so I could wash the dirty ones, I thought, well, I'll just put her cup away and nobody will use it. I picked up that coffee cup and bawled like a baby. Stood there thinking of all the pots and cups of coffee she and I have talked over through the years, prayed for others over, chatting with friends & neighbors over, solving the whole world's problems over a cup of coffee... It made me feel kinda silly, standing there crying over a dern coffee cup -- But I think it did me a world of good. I know she's in a better place. I know that she's not in pain now - and that's been one of the hardest things for me to deal with over the last few months - watching her to be in pain and not being able to "fix it". I watched my father die of skin cancer. My mother took care of him & allowed him to die with dignity at home in his own bed. We watched my sister-in-law die of cancer, and we took care of her in our home and allowed her the same dignity. I do believe that God has placed this responsibility for family taking care of family on us, and we have willingly answered the call. Yes, there have been some hard situations - but we have also been SO blessed by it in so many ways. I loved that little tiny woman to pieces. She was 4 feet 11 & 1/2 inches tall (although she would *claim* 5 feet when asked). LOL We had a hectic time for a few weeks trying to get the details taken care of. She didn't want to have a funeral. She wanted to be cremated without embalming. She wanted her ashes sent to her daughter in Texas to be spread over the ranch her & her husband owned when he was alive. She had very specific wishes, and we followed them to the letter. I'm glad we did. I still miss my Dad, especially when I hear a really stupid joke. He loved stupid jokes (for some reason). I'll hear one now, and still think "I'll have to remember to tell that one to Dad" before I remember he's been gone since 1993. I know it does get easier. I have so many good memories and good feelings to hang on to, though. She was a feisty one, and never hesitated to tell you "how the cow ate the cabbage", as she put it. hehehe.. I believe that the Lord is preparing us for something in all of this.. and we have lessons to learn, as always. I know that she was born-again, and she was a true believer, so I am comfortable in knowing that she is with the Lord. I sure do miss her (for me), but I'll think of her every time I have a cup of coffee and know that she is somewhere far better than here. The Hospice folks gave us a little booklet, and this was in the back of it. I thought it was beautiful: Gone From My Sight "I am standing upon the seashore. A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength. I stand and watch her until, at length, she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other. Then someone at my side says, "There, she is gone!" "Gone where?" Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast and hull and spar as she was when she left my side, and she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port. Her diminished size is in me, not in her. And just at the moment when someone at my side says, "There, she is gone!" there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices ready to take up the glad shout, "Here she comes!" And that is dying." ~Henry Van Dyke~ Thank you to all of you for all your kind words and your prayers. We've needed each & every one. HUGS to you all.
  10. A week ago today, on March 23rd, my MIL passed away. She was discharged from the hospital on Jan 30 after a surgery to amputate 2 fingertips combined with a bronchoscopy & biopsy that came back positive for an aggressive lung cancer. The cancer had already spread to her bones and her lymph nodes. She was not a candidate for chemotherapy or surgery. She spent the last 2 months at home, in her own room, as she wished. My DH & I slept in shifts so that she had someone there if she needed something. She lived with us for just a bit over 5 years before she passed away. I've been been feeling kind of lost for the last week. I know she is free of pain and is in a much better place. But I sure do miss her.
  11. Child Protective Services are required by law to check out every complaint, regardless of whether it is anonymous or whether the person who complains gives a name, relationship, address, etc. EVEN if the complaintant is anonymous, they do keep records of where the call came from (caller ID). Each case has a certain number of days before it has to be one of 3 things, closed, adjudicated (meaning court), or further services recommended (such as counseling, home health aide, whatever they feel a family needs). If a case is closed, that means they found no merit in the complaint, and that's it. It only stays on their records for (depending on the state) 3-6 months before it's actually run through a paper shredder & thrown out. We did foster care in 2 different states over 25+ years time, so I got to be real familiar with the child protective services folks, in many different counties. I always made it a point to make friends with the workers, and it was definitely in our best interests to do so. Our oldest Granddaughter was run over by a schoolbus a few years ago, when she was 7. It broke her leg in 2 places, broke several bones in her foot, broke her arm, and she had to have stitches in several places. The busdriver had a cell phone, but would not/did not call an ambulance or even report the accident to the police. She called her supervisor at the bus barn - who advised her to leave the scene of the accident and drop the rest of the kids at home. She didn't get but to the end of the county road before she had to call another bus to come & pick up the rest of the kids and take them home. However, she DID leave the scene of the accident & did not report it. She also failed to get medical attention or call an ambulance for the kid. My husband was coming home from the store and arrived on the scene right after it happened. He took our DD & the granddaughter to the ER in our Blazer. *I* had to call the sheriff's office to report the accident. The assistant superintendant showed up at the ER to talk to our DD. He was very surprised to find the Hiway Patrol there when he arrived. Their insurance co offered our DD a "settlement" for $26K - which was not even enough to cover the hospital and medical bills. She hired an attorney. After she refused the settlement they offered & hired the attorney, she and her kids started being harassed by the school. They called child protective services on her several times. By law, a school can't turn a family in during the summer or while school is not in session (Christmas break, spring break, etc.) They waited until the last day of school, about an hour before school got out for the summer, to turn her in for the last time. The school nurse pulled the girls out of class on more than one occasion. She sent a letter regarding the clothes the girls wore that actually stated that the girls would be better "socialized" if they wore name-brand clothing rather than clothes from Wal-Mart (where their father worked). She made the girls take showers and gave them different clothes to wear because they "smelled of wood smoke". They turned our DD & SIL into CPS for all kinds of stuff including "educational neglect" for the girl who was run over (she was out while in the hospital, with dr appts, the orthopedic surgeon, etc.), because there home was messy when Mom was sick & Dad collapsed at work & was in ICU for 2 days.. It was a mess. Even the CPS finally got the idea that the school was harassing their family due to the legal issues - after so many calls. If you are turned in to hotlines 5 times by the same caller - and all the calls are determined to be "without merit or cause" - it doesn't even have to be turned in to CPS - they constitute that as harassment - and you can get the county attorney to charge them with harassment and take them to court. Hotlines could be other things besides the CPS. It could include the health dept, the sheriff's office, animal control, animal welfare, police dept, etc. I know that several CPS workers have told me that a full one-third to one-half of the calls that come in are nothing more than someone being vindictive or trying to get even with someone else. By law, they HAVE to investigate each & every call. However, their time could be better spent and used to investigate families with children who really are being neglected or abused rather than checking out someone's false complaint. Yet, because some people like to use that system to get even with others, or because they see something they don't have a clue & jump to conclusions (like the neighbor's child has a black eye, they must be beating their kids!) instead of talking to the parents or even just to the kids and ASKING what happened, they pick up the phone because it's easy to do, and it's anonymous. Even SCHOOLS do it. Unless there's been more than one complaint, I don't think they can be legally made to release the name of the person who complained. If the person didn't leave a name, then all they have is the phone number the call came from anyway. But, Hotline harassment is against the law, regardless of who does it. Our DD & her lawyer finally settled out with the school on the bus accident. However, they're still working on settling the harassment suit.
  12. I once told my brother the story of the broken doll. There once was a little girl who had a broken doll. The little girl took it the broken doll to her daddy and asked him to fix it - because daddies can fix everything. Daddy told her he would fix it. But, the little girl soon decided that her Daddy wasn't fixing it fast enough. Every day, she pestered her daddy about fixing her broken doll. Finally, the daddy said to her, "How can I fix it when you keep snatching it out of my hands?" "The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you". And I have not thought of that story in YEARS, but - for some reason - it came directly to my mind while I was reading this thread. So, being led, there it is..
  13. Thankyou Lord for the health of these 2 children.
  14. We took care of my SIL before she died of lung cancer back in Jan 2002. Her daughters wanted to put her in a nursing home, but she didn't want to go to a nursing home. So we took her home with us, and took care of her till she went. Because the doctors in Springfield sent her home instead of admitting her, my MIL has ended up with dry gangrene in those 2 fingers. My doctor told me that gangrene is one of the most painful conditions known to man. She is wanting them to amputate the fingers to get rid of the pain, and they are taking their time about getting around to it. She got up to the kitchen table for a while yesterday, for the first time in several days, so she had a good day. I agree with you, I would not trade taking care of her for the world. I'm not saying anything bad about nursing homes, because I know they take care of people who need it - but I hope & pray that I never have to see the day when I am so unable to take care of a family member that I would have to put a family member in one.
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