lumabean

That doesn't sound bizarre at all, it shows you have concern and compassion for others.

Whether you get the foreclosure or not, the other person is not getting the house back. You woudn't really be benefitting from their misfortune -- the banks, loan officers, etc. were the ones who have done that -- well, if that was even the case, it could have been that the person was just reckless. Though you can never really know the circumstances of the foreclosure or the history of the person/family who lived there before, you can be assured that if you, someone else, or no one else buy the property, that person/family have already lost it, and it's now in the bank's hands.

Maybe it will be less personal if you look at it as something between you and the bank, not you and the people who previously owned? Because in essense that is what it is, between you and the bank, because the other person is already out of the equation.

I do admire your concern for others, esp, in this day and age where most are looking to get ahead at any cost. At the same time though, it would be sad to see you miss out on something that may be a perfect fit for your family.