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Has anyone used a crock pot?

http://livesimply.me/index.php/2013/05/06/homemade-yogurt-in-the-crock-pot/

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/suffer-the-children/201203/why-french-kids-dont-have-adhd

 

The case against labeling and medicating children, and effective alternatives for treating them

by Marilyn Wedge, Ph.D.

Why French Kids Don't Have ADHD

French children don't need medications to control their behavior.

Published on March 8, 2012 by Marilyn Wedge, Ph.D. in Suffer the Children

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The French child psychiatrists don't use the same system of classification of childhood emotional problems as American psychiatrists. They do not use the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders or DSM. According to Sociologist Manuel Vallee, the French Federation of Psychiatry developed an alternative classification system as a resistance to the influence of the DSM-3. This alternative was the CFTMEA (Classification Française des Troubles Mentaux de L'Enfant et de L'Adolescent), first released in 1983, and updated in 1988 and 2000. The focus of CFTMEA is on identifying and addressing the underlying psychosocial causes of children's symptoms, not on finding the best pharmacological bandaids with which to mask symptoms.

To the extent that French clinicians are successful at finding and repairing what has gone awry in the child's social context, fewer children qualify for the ADHD diagnosis. Moreover, the definition of ADHD is not as broad as in the American system, which, in my view, tends to "pathologize" much of what is normal childhood behavior. The DSM specifically does not consider underlying causes. It thus leads clinicians to give the ADHD diagnosis to a much larger number of symptomatic children, while also encouraging them to treat those children with pharmaceuticals.

The French holistic, psychosocial approach also allows for considering nutritional causes for ADHD-type symptoms—specifically the fact that the behavior of some children is worsened after eating foods with artificial colors, certain preservatives, and/or allergens. Clinicians who work with troubled children in this country—not to mention parents of many ADHD kids—are well aware that dietary interventions can sometimes help a child's problem. In the United States, the strict focus on pharmaceutical treatment of ADHD, however, encourages clinicians to ignore the influence of dietary factors on children's behavior.

And then, of course, there are the vastly different philosophies of child-rearing in the United States and France. These divergent philosophies could account for why French children are generally better-behaved than their American counterparts. Pamela Druckerman highlights the divergent parenting styles in her recent book, Bringing up Bébé. I believe her insights are relevant to a discussion of why French children are not diagnosed with ADHD in anything like the numbers we are seeing in the United States.

From the time their children are born, French parents provide them with a firm cadre—the word means "frame" or "structure." Children are not allowed, for example, to snack whenever they want. Mealtimes are at four specific times of the day. French children learn to wait patiently for meals, rather than eating snack foods whenever they feel like it. French babies, too, are expected to conform to limits set by parents and not by their crying selves. French parents let their babies "cry it out" if they are not sleeping through the night at the age of four months.

French parents, Druckerman observes, love their children just as much as American parents. They give them piano lessons, take them to sports practice, and encourage them to make the most of their talents. But French parents have a different philosophy of discipline. Consistently enforced limits, in the French view, make children feel safe and secure. Clear limits, they believe, actually make a child feel happier and safer—something that is congruent with my own experience as both a therapist and a parent. Finally, French parents believe that hearing the word "no" rescues children from the "tyranny of their own desires." And spanking, when used judiciously, is not considered child abuse in France. (Author's note: I am not personally in favor of spanking children).

As a therapist who works with children, it makes perfect sense to me that French children don't need medications to control their behavior because they learn self-control early in their lives. The children grow up in families in which the rules are well-understood, and a clear family hierarchy is firmly in place. In French families, as Druckerman describes them, parents are firmly in charge of their kids—instead of the American family style, in which the situation is all too often vice versa.

Copyright © Marilyn Wedge, Ph.D.

Marilyn Wedge is the author of Pills Are Not for Preschoolers: A Drug-Free Approach for Troubled Kids

Website: MarilynWedgephd.com

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Sadie the dog is at the top of the @#*! list.
For the last 2 weeks she has...

Gotten into trash 6 times

Woke me up 5 times exactly 40 minutes before my alarm is to go off because she had to go out . The last time was today.

For Christmas 3 years ago I received a wonderful pair of slippers. They came up well over the ankles and were warm and soft inside. They were perfect. Best slippers ever. Last week the heel ripped out and today Sadie the dog did them in.
R.I.P. my wonderful slippers.

Was overenthusiastic in making a new friend when DD's friend came over yesterday.

Was overenthusiastic in playing with Son and bit me when I reached for a pillow to put behind my back.
(I've had back spasms for the last week)

Barked at, the cat,the neighbor dogs, the trash man, every big truck going by, the people making a new parking lot at the skydiving place across the road, a duck call on TV ,dust and just because I said something that sounded like "who's here"

We have a scented candle burning for the last 2 days. She's been gassy.

I told her "die dog die" after I tossed out my slippers.
DD said I didn't mean if I'm petting her when I say it and if she did die who would watch bad disaster movies with me on Saturday nights. How did she (DD) find out about our(Sadie and I) secret addiction.

My new slippers are soft,warn and come up over the ankles. They even have sparkles on them.

now all I need is a good disaster movie but we'll have to make do with Duck Dynasty .

She better not bark at another duck call on TV..

I have a Midland accent.

http://www.gotoquiz.com/what_american_accent_do_you_have

I just ordered my beans today. I'm also going to try some made with rum.

I'm using the same tricks I used with my Son. Although he is not Autistic he did have problems in dealing with emotions of others and did not do well with groups or distracted teachers.
The other Special Friends are a couple that runs a date night once a month for people with disabled children and another Mother with a older Autistic child.
The children's director is happy that we all have some experience with these types of children. It's what she has been praying about. I'm glad I listened to the voice of God and volunteered.

I'm getting into the rhythm of the class room so I'll be better able to prepare her for changes next time. LylySue the visual timetable sounds like it would work for all the Special Friend's I'll tell the director.

Thanks again for all the tips.

Wonderful recipes.

The banana bread recipe I has you cooked the bananas in butter brown sugar and rum before putting it into the batter.

Thank you ladies. Your ideas help Sunday. We got her to participate in class. She didn't do all the activites but did more than she has before.

I talked to someone who had worked with her before and she said that as long as the child was quiet she would just let her stay under the table.

To me that wouldn't be any fun or enriching for the child.

My goal is for her to enjoy children's church not be overwhelmed.

When my Mom died someone gifted us with a bag of apples, a bag of grapes and about 6 lbs of bananas.

After my sisters family left I still had about 4 lbs of bananas so I tossed them in the freezer where I already had 2 lbs of bananas.

I need freezer space and I find most banana breads recipes dry.

I had a recipe that used rum and heavy cream that I liked but I can't find the recipe.

What are your favorite recipes?

 

A vacation is supposed to be your time away from the crazy. Remind me never to travel to any of the same vacation spots these people have booked. I’ll take that upgrade and trade you a bus tour of “OH MY GOD THESE PEOPLE ARE NUTS!”

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THESE ARE ACTUAL COMPLAINTS RECEIVED BY “THOMAS COOK VACATIONS FROM DISSATISFIED CUSTOMERS” :

 

1. “I think it should be explained in the brochure that the local convenience store does not sell proper biscuits like custard creams or ginger nuts.”

 

2. “It’s lazy of the local shopkeepers in Puerto Vallarta to close in the afternoons. I often needed to buy things during ‘siesta’ time — this should be banned.”

 

3. “On my holiday to Goa in India , I was disgusted to find that almost every restaurant served curry. I don’t like spicy food.”

I’ll book it but only if I can screen my fellow travelers first.

4. “We booked an excursion to a water park but no-one told us we had to bring our own swimsuits and towels. We assumed it would be included in the price”

 

5. “The beach was too sandy. We had to clean everything when we returned to our room.”

 

6. “We found the sand was not like the sand in the brochure. Your brochure shows the sand as white but it was more yellow.”

 

7. “They should not allow topless sunbathing on the beach. It was very distracting for my husband who just wanted to relax.”

 

8. “No-one told us there would be fish in the water. The children were scared.”

 

9. “Although the brochure said that there was a fully equipped kitchen, there was no egg-slicer in the drawers.”

 

10. “We went on holiday to Spain and had a problem with the taxi drivers as they were all Spanish.”

 

11. “The roads were uneven and bumpy, so we could not read the local guide book during the bus ride to the resort. Because of this, we were unaware of many things that would have made our holiday more fun.”

 

12. “It took us nine hours to fly home from Jamaica to England . It took the Americans only three hours to get home. This seems unfair.”

 

13. “I compared the size of our one-bedroom suite to our friends’ three-bedroom and ours was significantly smaller.”

 

14. “The brochure stated: ‘No hairdressers at the resort’. We’re trainee hairdressers and we think they knew and made us wait longer for service.”

 

15. “There were too many Spanish people there. The receptionist spoke Spanish, the food was Spanish. No one told us that there would be so many foreigners.”

 

16. “We had to line up outside to catch the boat and there was no air-conditioning.”

 

17. “It is your duty as a tour operator to advise us of noisy or unruly guests before we travel.”

 

18. “I was bitten by a mosquito. The brochure did not mention mosquitoes.”

 

19. “My fiance and I requested twin-beds when we booked, but instead we were placed in a room with a king bed. We now hold you responsible and want to be re-reimbursed for the fact that I became pregnant. This would not have happened if you had put us in the room that we booked.”

http://blogdramedy.wordpress.com/2013/10/02/its-enough-to-make-you-cancel-your-reservation/

Thier answer. It always seems to.

Why yes Homesteder his name is Jim.

I told Dh I wanted some bees wax. he told me one of his Ham Buddies has bees. Dh brought home some honey but I'm still waiting on the wax. When I get honey from the store the kids can have it gone in days. I'm not going back to honey in the store.

Conversation I had yesterday with my Son ...

Son... Why does this raw unpasteurized honey taste weird?
Me... They pasteurize honey?
Son... MOM, why does the honey taste weird.
Me.. I found out some of the honey in the store is ultra-filtered and no longer contains pollen and they add corn syrup. The honey Dad brought home is real pure honey it's got a stronger honey taste.

Son.. OH.

Me... get used to it I'm not buying it from the store anymore.

It's defiantly more a case of shutdown than meltdown.

Although I have no problem believing a meltdown would be spectacular.
The other kids don't seem to bother her too much. Changing from one active to anther is the stress point.

Sometimes we can get her to participate in class, but Sunday the teacher got a little lost on a game that was in the lesson and that made her shutdown fast.
She has a overly large fleece shirt on all the time. That's the first sign of shutdown. If she starts pulling it up over her face you're about to loose her.
She will let me touch her and I can play with the toys along with her as long as I remember to put them back in the same place she had them.
Talking to her softly and giving her a soft toy will help get her out of shutdown but I'm look for ways to stop it before it starts.
The parents are divorced and she only comes on the Sundays her Dad has her.( More stress) I think he's a little lost on what to do with her too.

Cat, most school systems now want aides to have at least a Associate degree. A Bachelor's degree is preferred. Although it doesn't have to be in education.

The little angel I'm a Special Friend with in church has Autism. Smart little cookie one on one.

Special friends take a turn one Sunday a month and out of all the Friends they think I connect best with the child. I've done it twice this month. It's a large class and I can see how overwhelming it can be for the child.

I can see the early signs of shutdown and I think that's why I seem to connect with the child. I need more ideas to head off complete shutdown.

We have a box of toy's that's seems to help but complete shutdown and I have a kid huddling under a table.

I'm sorry for your loss.

I thinking about trying tis recipe.

1. One four pound twelve ounce box of Borax. You can use 2 smaller boxes.
2. Three bars of Fels-Naptha soap. You can use any soap of your choice.
3. one four pound box of arm & hammer baking soda.
4. one box of arm & hammer super washing soda
5. four pounds of Oxy Clean one small/one large container
6. Laundry softener cyrstals for scent. You can mix these in to your laundry detergent or add them to your loads as needed.

It was 4:30 in the morning. I was not thinking trap but it was set up that way. Yes I do think I live in a safe neighborhood but there are parts of town that if I came accross the same thing I would be totally freaked out.

It's like egg noodles.

http://chezpim.com/cook/pennsylvania-du

I have been making our laundry soap for awhile now and we are happy with the resullts.

I have the ingredents to make the soap but haven't had a lot of time lately so I'm now out of the homemade soap.

DD1 left a bottle of Tide so I used that do the laundry this week.

Dh said last night "why do the sheeets smell funny?"

Yup, I've got to find some time to make more.

Pot Pie Dough

2 eggs
2 cups flour
2 -3 Tablespoons milk or cream.

Break the eggs into the flour. work toghter, adding the milk to make a soft dough. Roll out the dough as thin as possible and cut into 1" x 2" rectangles with a knife . Drop into boiling broth.
Unlike noodles these are not left to dry before being cooked

This was what a friend posted on Facebook...

 

I almost hit it also, called 911 and they said they would send someone out. Didn't want to stop thought it might be a trap.

It was very deliberate. I'm thinking teenagers. The house it was in front of was having a yard sale today. They had all the stuff in the yard and someone moved it into the road.