You are right she is goign through some of the same, only I think she is identifying too much with my husband as the cheif wage earner. She has never truly respected my decision not to have a career as much as she has verbally said she does. I always knew this day would come, if I ever dared have my own ideas about things. Oh well the ball is in her court. I won't sink down to her level. From now on she'll only hear positive things from me, never a whisper that everything isn't perfect. Because that is what I am being rejected for, not being PERFECT. I'm not exaggerating either. Since that is an imposibility I will have to just accept that she will never be able to give me unconditional love and support. I will just have to give it to her and my own children and hope that it is enough. Thank you all for YOUR unconditional love and support for me. It has given me the softest place to fall and I can't tell you enough how much all of you mean to me